My biggest pet peeves! By: Brandee Darden.

                            My biggest pet peeves! By: Brandee Darden. Monday, March 7th, 2022! 

Intro to my blog!

Hello, my Shinning Star Butterflies!! It's your girl, Brandee back with all new blog episodes for the week! I hope everyone has an amazing weekend and if not, that's okay! I hope everyone has a safe and great week! If anyone has exams coming up, I just want to wish y'all good luck! Study hard but not too hard! Don't overwork yourself and take breaks in between your study sessions! Y'all got this! I believe in y'all 210%. Happy Monday or in other countries, Happy Tuesday! On last week's blog post, I talked about the blogs I like/ Which one was hard to talk about it, my future jobs, and analyzing the song "Dynamite" by BTS. When I was talking about which blog was the hardest for me to talk about, when I mentioned my blog my "My story about my suicide attempt", that was really hard for me because in 2018, that was a hard period for me! I was moving and I was missing my grandpa a lot! My grandpa, Flex went to be with Jesus on February 5th, 2017 and to be honest with my Shinning Star Butterflies, that was so hard for me! He wasn't my real grandpa, but I claimed him as my grandpa because he was there for me and supported me through everything! I'm glad that I got to speak about my suicide attempt and got to share my story with everyone around the world! Talking about something like my suicide attempt isn't the easiest to talk about! It is very hard to talk about and I'm glad that I got to talk about it and share it with everyone!! If you know someone who is battling with suicide thoughts or even yourself, just know that you are not alone! You are not alone in this battle and don't let these thoughts win! I am here for anyone if anyone needs someone to talk to! 

Talking about what kind of blogs that I am doing this week? What is today's blog going to be about? What is the song of week?

For this week's blogs, I will be talking about my biggest pet peeves, who are the strongest women in my life and Kpop female idols, and analyzing my poem "Fake Love" by me aka Brandee Darden. I am so excited about these blogs! Stay tuned these blog episodes!! For today's blog episode, I will be talking about my biggest pet peeves. I will be talking about if I had to pick my 4 biggest pet peeves, what would they be? Why would I pick those as my pet peeves? Why did I pick a pet peeve like when people leave me on read? Why don't I like when people leave me on read? If I have any advice on people leaving you on read, what is my advice? Why would I give that advice? What is the significance behind that advice? Why is the advice so significant? For this week's song of the week, I chose "Glow" by Bear Bear and Friends! I love this song so much and actually, one of my Shinning Star Butterflies suggested to me! Thank you so much to one of Shinning Star Butterflies for suggesting this song to me! Thank you so much! Let's get started with this blog episode! Shall we? We shall!! 

Talking about the different pet peeves and why is there different pet peeves??

The different pet peeves that I think of is when you go into a room and all of a sudden, you forget what you are getting or another pet peeve could if someone chews loudly and it drives you crazy. A third pet peeve could be if someone touches your stuff without your permission! That would drive me crazy!! The fourth and final pet peeve you could have is when someone said that they are going to be there for you but in reality, they are not. I have this as a pet peeve and I will explain here in a little bit on why I have it but I am going to explain it here! That drives me crazy when someone say "I'm always here for you no matter what" and then, they are not there for you when you are going through a hard time! The reason why there is different pet peeves is because sometimes, different things can drive you crazy or one of your pet peeves could be you going to a room and you forget what you went in there for. Everyone has different pet peeves and everyone has something that will bothers them! I have different things that bother me and that's okay!!! 

If I had to pick my 4 biggest pet peeves, what would they be? Why would I pick those as my pet peeves? 

If I had to pick my biggest pet peeves, they would be when people leave me on read, when people say they are there for me, but really they are not there for me, judging other people for that like, and when people lie to me! The first pet peeve is when people leave me on read! The reason why I picked that as a pet peeve is because when people leave me on read, it drives me! I get inside of my head of "are they going to talk to me"? "Do they like me"? "Did I say something wrong"? Those things run through my head so many times and I am not afraid to admit that I leave people on read sometimes and I don't think it is okay to leave people on read. The second pet peeve that I have is when people say "they are there for me" but really, they are not there for me! I don't like when people say "I'm always here for you no matter what" but then, they either turn their back on me or they stopped talking to me! That hurts me to the core! I have learned to let those type of people go when they do those things to me! They aren't worth your time! Let them go! The third pet peeve that I have is judging other people for what they like or what their skin color is or their sexuality is or who they like! I don't like when people judge other people because of what they like, what their skin color is, their sexuality is, or even what sex they want to be! I don't have any problem with any of that but when people judge other people for what they like or what their skin color is or any of the other stuff that I mentioned, that is when I will get mad and that is when I will protect that person, even I don't know them! Never judge a book by its cover because you don't know what they have been through! The fourth and final pet peeve that I have is when people lie to me! OMG! I don't like when people lie to me! The reason why I picked this as my pet peeve is because when people lie to me, it hurts me so much to the point where I am mad and hurt because when someone I thought I could trust and all of the sudden, I can't trust them because they lied to me, it hurts me. That's why I have trust issues! When people lie to me, I can't trust them anymore! It takes time for me to trust that person again!

Why did I pick a pet peeve like when people leave me on read? Why I don't I like when people leave me on read?

The reason why I pick a pet peeve like when people leave on read is because I get into my head a lot about "Do they want to talk to me"? "Do they like me"? I get so much anxiety when they leave me on read but I learned how to move on past it and just accept it! I learned to move on from it and learned that some people aren't meant to talk to for along time and carry on a conversation! I learn to move past it because it is in the past! If you move on from the past, then you will be okay! Why don't I like when people leave me on read? The reason why I don't like when people leave me on read is because I get a bunch of things in head or maybe they don't want to carry a conversation with me and that's okay! I learn that not every person would want to carry a conversation and that's okay! I have learned to carry on with life and continue to be happy! Besides, I rather be happy then talking to someone for a long time! I rather be alone at times and then, talking to someone about nonsense! That's kind of boring! 

If I have any advice on people leaving you on read, what is my advice? Why would I give that advice? 

If I have any advice on people leaving you on read, what is my advice? My advice is leave that person in the past! If you sent a message to a person and they leave you on read, they either don't want a long conversation or they are just really busy! If they don't want to talk to you, move on and take sometime to yourself! Time to yourself is well worth it and having sometime to yourself is absolutely amazing and it is worth it! Why would I give that advice? The reason why I would give this advice is because yes, it is nice to have someone to talk to but if they don't want to talk to you and leave you on read, chances are they don't want to carry on a conversation or they just don't want to talk to you! Sometimes, some people don't want to talk for a long time especially me because after I am done with my blog episode for the day, my brain turns to a puddle or a mud and I can't think at that right moment and I am tired because I did a lot of thinking and I am just tired that I don't want to carry on a conversation or I just want to talk to anyone! If someone leaves you on read, let it be! It's not worth being sad over someone who leaves you on read! Don't dwell on someone leaving you on read! Don't even make a huge fuss about it! Not even worth it and besides, having a time to yourself is much better than talking to someone who doesn't want to talk to you or is talking nonsense! Enjoy that time alone and be happy!! Being happy by yourself is much better!! 

What is the significance behind that advice? Why is the advice so significant? 

What is the significance behind that advice? The significance behind that advice is when people don't want to talk to you, they usually leave you on read! Sometimes when people do that to me, I usually get mad, but now I move on from it and just keep going with life! Life is too precious and it's not worth getting mad or upset if someone leaves you on read! If that person doesn't want to talk to you, chances are that they are very busy or just don't want to talk to you and it's not worth getting upset or mad over! It's not! Move on from it and make yourself happy! Your happiness is worth much more than a conversation with someone who doesn't want to talk to you or they are talking a bunch of nonsense! Why is the advice so significant? The reason why the advice is so significant is because sometimes, people don't understand me when I don't want to talk to that person and some people don't understand that talking to other people can be so annoying at times and if you don't want to talk to that person, just leave them on read! I know it sounds wrong to do, but if you want to enjoy that time alone and want some space from people, just leave them on read! Maybe, give them a taste of their own medicine and show them what it is feels like to be left on read! Just move on from them and talk to someone else who is worth your time and who will be there for you no matter what!

In conclusion/ Tip of the day/ Question of the day?

In conclusion, if people leave you on read or say "they will always be there for you no matter what" or they lie to you, just know to never trust that person or people ever again. It is hard to trust someone who just hurt you and you thought you would supported you but they went behind your back and stabbed you! If that person lied to you or tell you "I'm always here for you" or they judge you because of your skin color or what you like or even your sexuality, chances are they are haters and they are jealous! If that person leaves you on read, chances are they are really busy, they don't want to talk to you, or they just don't care about the conversation! Just carry on with your life! Here is my tip and question of the day?! My tip of the day is if someone is judging you or someone is leaving you on read or someone lied to you, don't worry about those people! They aren't worth your time! Don't waste your tears on that person because they hurt you! Don't give them the time of day because it's not worth it! It's not worth it and don't pay attention to them! Not worth it!! My question of the day is what is y'all's pet peeves? What bothers you the most? Sound off in the comments down below and let me know! I would love to read and respond to y'all's comments! Please! Thank you so much!! I love y'all so much!! 

Alright, my Shinning Star Butterflies! Y'all have reached the end of my blog episode for today! I hope y'all enjoyed today's blog episode! To any of my Shinning Star Butterflies who are students and are taking exams, I just want to say good luck on your exams! You got this! I believe in y'all 210%. Good luck! I believe in y'all! I hope everyone stays safe and I hope everyone has a good week ahead! Happy Monday or in other countries, Happy Tuesday! I love y'all very much! Stay Gold! Shine bright like a star that y'all are! Fly like a butterfly and chase your dreams! I love y'all and I will see y'all on Wednesday! I love y'all! Your blogger queen is out! Peace! 💜✌

This quote is for when people say they are there for me, but really they are not there for me:
"Stop
ignoring actions and trusting words.
Stop giving your all to a person 
who gives you nothing.
Stop hanging on to someone who has let go of you.
Stop expecting change from a person
who doesn't want to be changed. 
Stop letting the fear of loneliness cause you 
to settle for less than what you deserve.
Stop letting the wrong reasons 
keep you in a relationship that isn't right for you.
Stop breaking your own heart."
-Trent Shelton. I love this quote because all of this is true! Stop breaking your own heart by being in a relationship or even a friendship that might hurt you in the end! You deserve to have a friend or be in a relationship that is much better!! 

This quote is for the people who are judging other people: 
"No one 
likes feeling 
judged. 
Back off and 
let people live.
We're all on 
some type of 
journey, all
evolving and 
growing." 
-Unknown. I love this quote because all of us are on some type of a journey together! We are learning different things and we are growing!! Don't judge other people and tear them down! That's not right!! 

This quote is for when people lie to me:
"Tell a lie once, and all your 
truths become questionable".
-Unknown. I love this quote because if you tell me a lie once, how am I going to trust you again? If you lie to me over and over, chances are that I will never believe you ever again and it is going to take some time to rebuild our trust again!! 

This quote is for people who leave me on read! 
"When people don't text 
back I get so much 
anxiety... am I bugging 
you? are you mad at 
me? are we even 
friends? why do I care
so much"?
-Unknown! I like this quote because these things run through my head a lot and I wonder if I am bugging my friends or why do I care so much? 

The song of the week is "Glow" by Bear Bear and Friends! I love this song so much because it is so good and amazing! One of my Shinning Star Butterflies recommend this song to me and it is so good!!