Blog: Talking about the words "reaching out". by: Brandee Marie Darden! Wednesday, 9/20/23!! 

Intro to my blog!! 

Well, hello my Blogger Dreamers! It's your Blogger Queen herself, Brandee here and welcome back to an all new weekly blog episode where I talk about anything that is on my mind or I talk about anything that is personal from bullying or even makeup and fashion!! How are y'all doing today? I hope everyone is doing okay and well! Whatever the circumstances might be, just know that y'all are loved and I care about y'all so much! Please, whatever you do, don't give up! I'm here for y'all! Happy Wednesday or in other countries, Happy Thursday!! Before I get into today's blog episode, here is a recap of Monday's blog episode!! On Monday, I talked about the song "Praying" by Kesha which is this week's song of the week, blog by: Brandee Marie Darden! When I think about this song and the meaning of this song, I think about the people who hurt me but because of those people hurting me, they made me stronger and I am so proud of myself for how far I have come and I can't wait to see what God has in store for me and my Blogger Dreamers! If y'all haven't read this blog episode and would love to check it out, the blog is called "Analyzing the song, 'Praying', by Kesha, blog by Brandee Marie Darden". For today's blog episode, I will be talking about the words "reaching out". In this blog, I will be talking about when I think about the words "reaching out", what comes to mind? Why does it come to mind when I think about the words "reaching out"? What is the importance of reaching out to the people who you love? Why is it important to reach out to the people who you love and care about? If I have any advice about people who don't reach out to you, what is my advice? Why would I give that type of advice? Now, let's put on our blogging imagination brain on and get this blog episode started! Shall we? We shall!! 

 How often should you reach out to the people who you love? Why is it important to reach out to the people who you love? 

How often should you reach out to the people who you love? In my opinion, you should reach out to the people who you love as much as you can! When you reach out to those people who you care about, it shows them how they are loved by you and how much you love them! If you do reach out but they don't message you or call you back, then they are not worth your time! If they don't care to reach out to you or respond to you, it shows you that they never cared about you in the first place! I honestly know how that feels because I had reach out to one of my sisters and she never responded to me which hurts me so much and not only just her but others as well! Why is it important to reach out to the people who you love? I think the reason why it is important to reach out to the people who you love is because you never know when your last day can be and you never know when that person's last day so you need to spend time with that person or even call or text them but if they don't call or text back, then they are not worth your time and you need to find someone who is worth your time and effort, not someone who doesn't care about you and never answer!! 

The words "reaching out". 

When I think about the words "reaching out", what comes to mind? When I think about the words "reaching out", the first thing that comes to mind is asking people that you love and care about if they are doing okay because what if they are not doing okay! They might be going through something that you don't know about and that would make you worry! For me, I will reach out to certain people if they need me but if they don't respond to me or they say "I'm busy! I can't talk right now"! I would totally understand and respect that but if they don't say anything like that at all, it hurts me! I am that type of a person who will be there for people vs where people are there for me! I know a couple of people who are there for me but I'm not sure who else is there for me which is sad! I don't hear from a lot of people!!

Why? 

Why does it come to mind when I think about the words "reaching out"? The reason why it came to mind when I think about the words "reaching out" is because for me, I will reach out to people who I love all day but if they don't respond to me, it feels like a stab in the heart! I will care about people all day and everyday but if you gave me a reason on why you don't reach out to me, then I will walk away from you and praying that you don't reach out to me again! It bugs me when I have a few people to reach out to me but if I reach out to other people, I don't get an answer which is hurtful! I wish some of those people can see how bad it hurts me! I have family who lives in Mississippi but they don't come to see me, which hurts even more! Reach out to those who care about you!!

The importance of reaching out!! 

What is the importance of reaching out to the people who you love? I think the importance of reaching out to the people who you love is making sure how are they are doing or if they are doing okay or not! You need to know if that person who you love is doing okay or not because what if they are not doing okay and they are going through a hard time in their life! Sometimes, I wonder if I have people who actually do care about me or not or who will reach out to me because for me, I am always doing the reaching out and I feel like that's not right for me at all! I feel like it is very important to reach out to your friends, family, or to anyone who you love! You always want to make sure they are okay and well because if you get a gut instinct that they are not doing okay and well, you might be right and so, always make sure to check on those people who you care about!

Why is it important? 

Why is it important to reach out to the people who you love and care about? The reason why it is important to reach out to the people who you care about and you love so much because what if they need you the most? What if they are not doing alright and something is bothering them? If that person reaches out to you and they say "I need you", for me, I would drop everything just to be there for that person because I love and care about people to easily and I would do anything to help another human being because that is how much I care! I would pray for anyone because I care and I love people so much!! I would do anything to keep people safe!! That's the honest truth!! 

My advice! 

If I have any advice about people who don't reach out to you, what is my advice? To my Blogger Dreamers who has reached out to other people but they don't reach out to you, here is my advice: My advice is don't reach out to those people anymore! If you continue to reach out to those people who don't reach out to you, you are going to continue to get hurt each and every time and you don't need that! Reach out to the ones you know that would respond to you and be there for you! Those people matter and they will love and care about you until the very end! Don't give up on those people! They will always care and love you, no matter what!!

Why? 

Why would I give that type of advice? The reason why I would give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers is because if you continue to reach out to the people who don't reach out to you, then you are going to continue to get hurt and who knows if you will ever hear from them again? I haven't heard from one of my parents in a while and it is sad that I did most of the reaching out but when one of your parents don't want to reach out to you, you just want to give up at very moment and which I did! It's like I have to send a text to people who I care about but only few people will respond to me and it stings a little bit but when you grow fond used to it, you are used to it and that's what I am used to! I will be okay though!! 

In closing/ Tip of the day/ Challenge of the day!! 

In closing. reaching out to those people who matter to you in your life, it counts! People who are close to you, they care about you more than anything in this world and they want to hear from you because they would be happy! We need to start reaching out to those people who you love and who you care about it! Reaching out is the most important to me and I started to realize that if I continue to reach out to the people who don't matter me and who aren't there for me or who doesn't support me at all, then I am going to continue to get hurt over and over again and I am not going through that hurt again! Here is my tip and challenge of the day! My tip of the day is keep in touch with those people who do reach out to you because if you keep in touch with those people who do reach out to you, then they are going to be there for you for the rest of your life! My challenge of the day is reach out to those people who you don't talk to and if they answer, then you did your part and keep the conversation going! I love y'all so much and always reach out to those people who matter!!

Well, hello my Blogger Dreamers! It's your girl aka the Blogger Queen herself, Brandee here to remind everyone that y'all just have reached the end of today's blog episode for today! The moral of this blog is reach out to the people who matter to you! Reach out to the people who you love! Write that person a letter if you have to because if you write them a letter, maybe they can see how bad you are hurting! For me, I have giving up on reaching out to people who refused to talk to me and it hurts me a lot but I had to do it because it was destroying my mental health! Don't let someone not reaching out to you destroy your mental health either! Focus on people who matter to you! For today's quote of  the day, it goes something like this: "Sometimes, even a little hope will guide you to your destination". -Pragya! I love this quote so much because if you have a little hope in something, it can lead or guide you to the right destination! Always have a little hope in something!! I pray that everyone will have a good Wednesday or in other countries, a good Thursday! I love y'all so much and always remember "Dream Big! Don't give up on your dreams" and I will see y'all on my next blog episode! I love y'all so much and this Blogger Queen is out! Peace!! ☮✌💜

Today's quote of the day! Love this quote so much!!! Have a little hope because having a little hope can go a long way!! 

"People make time for who
they want to make time for. 
People text and reply to 
people they want to talk to. 
Never believe anyone who 
says they've been too busy. 
If they wanted to be around
you, they would".
-Unknown Author!! I find this quote so relatable because people would make time for you if they care about you and love you! If you tell me that "you are busy" then I would understand but if I see you posting online and stuff like that, I am going to think you're lying to me and you stabbed me in the back!!  Make time for people who matter to you!!

"It's funny 
how many friends
you lose when you
stop reaching out to 
them first".
-Unknown! I love this quote because when you stop reaching out to your friends or even your family, they show you they don't want to be in your life anymore and they are showing you that you don't matter to them but hurts!! 

Today's lesson: 
Stop being always 
available to people who
are just there for you 
when it's convenient for 
them".
-Unknown!! I love this so much because if that person doesn't want to be there for you when you need them the most, stop being there for them because if you stop being there for them, it might teach them a lesson and they need to be taught a lesson! I'm just saying!!