💔 Blog: What are things that make it hard to trust people? blog by: Brandee Marie Darden!! Date of blog: Wednesday, 10-22-25!! blog dedicated to anyone who has trust issues and they have a hard time trusting people! This blog episode is for y'all! 💔
Intro to my blog!
Well, hello my Blogger Dreamers! It's your girl aka the Blogger Queen herself, Brandee here and welcome back to an all new weekly blog episode where I talk about anything from my poems to anything that God puts on my heart! How are y'all doing today? I hope and pray that everyone is doing okay and well! Whatever y'all are going through, I'm always here for y'all, no matter what! Happy Wednesday or in other countries, Happy Thursday! Who is ready for an all new weekly blog episode for today? I know that I am but 1st, a blog recap! On Monday, I talked about what 3 things make me happy? If I could pick 3 things that make me happy, one of the things that I would pick is talking to my fiancé!! When I talk to my fiancé, I get butterflies because he makes me so happy!! He makes me the happiest girl in the world!! Want to know more about it? I will leave the link right here: → Blog: What 3 things make me happy? ←Link right here!! For today's blog episode, I will be talking about what are things that make it hard to trust people? Blog dedicated to anyone who has trust issues and they have a hard time trusting people! This blog episode is for y'all! In this blog episode, I will be talking about if I could pick 3 things that make it hard to trust people, what are those things? Why are those things make it hard to trust people? Out of those things, which one makes it the hardest to trust people? Why does that thing make it the hardest to trust people? What is my advice to my Blogger Dreamers who have a hard time trust people? Why would I give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers who has a hard time trusting people? With that being said, let's get this blog episode started! Shall we? We shall!
What makes it hard for me to trust people? Why does that thing make it hard for me to trust people?
What makes it hard for me to trust people? I think what makes it hard for me to trust people is when they lie to me or give me an attitude about something!! When they lie to me about something or give me an attitude, it felt like I have been slapped in the face!! When people lie to me, it hurts! If you tell me the honest truth from the beginning, it wouldn't be such an issue from the beginning but if you tell me a lie, that's a problem!! When you give me an attitude, I will give you one as one! Just be careful!! Why does that thing make it hard for me to trust people? The reason why those two things make it hard for me to trust people is because when you lie to me, I can sense someone's body language when they change positions! When I notice people's body language is off, I know something is off! When someone gives me an attitude problem, I can tell they are having a hard day!! I don't hold it against them!! Just tell me the truth and let me help you!!
3 things!
If I could pick 3 things that make it hard to trust people, what are those things? The 1st thing that makes it hard to trust people is less communication! When you are not already trusting that person already, you are having more trouble trusting them when they are communicating with you! When there is less communication, then that's a problem!! When you are not communicating enough, that's an issue!! The 2nd thing that makes it hard to trust people is lie to me! When you lie to me, that becomes a big problem! When you lie to me, I have trouble respecting you and being there for you! I can't stand people who lie to me and if you lie to me, then you leave me no choice but not trust you anymore!! The 3rd and final thing that makes it hard to trust people is not following through! When you are not following through on your promise, I have trouble trusting what you are telling me! If you are not going to keep your promise, then I don't want to be around you and that's simple as that!!
Why?
Why are those things make it hard to trust people? The 1st reason why less communication is making it hard to trust people is because when you trust people, you should always communicate with what's going on in life, not leaving them in the dark with something and people tend to do that and that angers me so much! Don't leave that person in the dark!! The 2nd reason why lie to me is making it hard to trust people is because when you are not telling me the truth, you are already breaking my trust and once you are lying to me, I already don't trust you! I can't stand a liar! If you are going to lie to me, don't lie to my face!! The 3rd and final reason why not through on your promise is making it hard to trust people is because when you tell a person that you will do something for them but then you don't follow through, you are not keeping your end deal of the bargain and that's not fair!! Keep your end deal of the bargain and follow through!! If you are not going to follow through, then I am not going to trust you! Simple as that!!
Hardest to trust!
Out of those things, which one makes it the hardest to trust people? If I had to pick one that could be hard to trust people, it would have to be not following through!! Yes, less communication or lie to me is the cherry on top but not following through takes the icing of the whole cake!! When you tell a young child a promise, you should follow through but people tend to not follow through and that's hard on a young child! I remember when I was kid, I had people tell me promises but doesn't mean they follow through? Nope and to this day, I don't believe in promises anymore!! That's hard for me!! Don't make a promise if you are not going to follow through!! Simple as that!
Why?
Why does that thing make it the hardest to trust people? I think the reason why not following through makes it the hardest to trust people is because when you make a promise to someone, you are suppose to keep up with that person but once you break that promise, that person is no longer trusting you anymore and that's how I feel when it comes to certain people in my life! I had people make promises to me time and time and time again but every time that do that, they broke that person and it breaks me so much! To this day, I still think about that as a young kid and it still hurts me!! I wish I could hug my younger self and tell het that you don't deserve people who isn't going to follow through!!
My advice!
What is my advice to my Blogger Dreamers who have a hard time to trust people? If I could give any advice to my Blogger Dreamers who are having a hard time to trust people, my advice is don't listen to people who won't keep up their bargain of the deal!! If people aren't going to listen to you and keep their end of the bargain, then don't trust those people, no more!! It's not worth getting hurt at end!! People will follow through at times but then, they will not follow at times! Don't listen to a person who doesn't follow with their promises! They will break them at the end!!!
Why?
Why would I give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers who has a hard time trusting people? The reason why I would give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers is because when that person already has trust issues, it creates even more trust issues and that's hard on a person because when they expect you to follow on a promise, you should follow on a promise and if you don't follow on a promise, you are hurting the person and you are also hurting yourself!! Don't hurt yourself and don't hurt the other person as well! Keep your promise and follow through!!
In closing/ My wisdom for the day!
In closing, as a woman who has trust issues, I had to guard my heart a lot because I have a hard time trusting what people have to say or I sometimes wonder if they will keep up with what they tell me and then, they don't go through what they mean and to me, that's hard because I already have trust issues as it is but when you tell me "I will do this or that for you", I have a hard time believing in you!! When you have less communication with a person, it shows that person that you can't trust them anymore and that you are not willing to work on your communication or when you lie to them or even me, it hurts me! When you don't follow through on a promise, it hurts a person! Here is my wisdom of the day: My wisdom of the day is If you are going to follow through on a person's promise, do it! Don't tell them other wise because if you are going to tell them other wise, you are going to hurt that person at the end of the day and you don't do that to a person! I love y'all from the bottom of my heart!!